Thursday, October 20, 2016

Mother's growing pains

     Mother's growing pains are real.. it's that feeling in your heart when you realize those pink rain boots don't fit your daughter anymore. The ones you watched her wear all year round even on dry summer days . Realizing that your child doesn't need that extra help from you anymore. the pain of knowing that time is ticking and moments are gone forever... It's truly a privilege to watch them meet so many milestones... painful to feel as if you could have done better. There is so much joy in watching our kids grow and become independent of us, but there is also that sadness in knowing there is no going back...
     Remember that baby you once made so happy by simply chasing around the house. That same baby now a couple years later who fights you over pretty much everything. Our mom heart hurts in knowing that we can't always make them happy anymore. That baby now has to feel in order to grow... and as painful as it is a mother must stay strong and let her child learn the lessons of life. I've noticed that it's always for the best interest of the child but it always puts our mom's heart at risk... 
      The reality check pain, the one you feel when you realize your life isn't as glamorous or put together as you thought or said it would be. Going to bed saying to yourself  "tomorrow I'll do my hair" next morning rolls around and you come face to face with your reality. So you find out that there will be no time to do your hair.... you quickly manage to do a bun hoping it comes out semi decent cause you'll have to wear it to drop of the kids at school. "Mom I'm hungry" and then you hear the sound of the toilet seat being picked up "THE BABY" and during all this you could smell the pooped diaper!!!! No mother wants to complain believe me we all do this thing simply because we want to and we love our kids, but...... there is a part of us that hurts, it's not a good feeling going to bed wearing that lifeless bun once again saying HOPING "maybe tomorrow?"
     The difference between a childs growing pains and a mother's is that our children will eventually grow out of them and it's more of a physical pain, typically leg pains. Mothers growing pain is in the heart and soul... typically right in the center of our being the area that triggers our existences and they are life long pains. There are different stages harder ones to come I hear.. and there is no antidote. Mothers were built to survive it and to never give up on that baby while risking their hearts. The only thing that eases the pain is talking to other mothers who have been there. Talking about certain things that only another mother could understand. So be there be present, be part of the joy and pain. Soak in the mothers growing pains and let them change your whole life.

Mom Luz


  1. It's a true honor knowing you, not only as a friend but also as a fanatic of your soul. You're doing a phenomenal job as a woman and mother and even in the distance I love knowing what you're going through. You're sooo inspiring it's almost unreal. I love you!

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