Choices

   My kids make alot of their own choices. I have gotten a lot of different reactions from people. A lot of parents control pretty much every aspect of their kids life, so when they hear me say "I let them choose" they freak out!! "Oh my gosh she's crazy! Those kids are gonna grow up and she will not have any control over them" and that's okay.. everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
Now let me explain there is no choosing when it comes to going to school, cleaning their room and being respectful. But I do let them choose what they wear. I'm not the typ of parent who tried to impress others by how clean and well dressed my kids are. If anything I would want to impress with how happy my kids look and feel. So yes!!go crazy with your style kids. Its all about expressing your individuality around here. AND COME ON THEY'RE KIDS! They look cute with whatever they wear. I also let them choose what's on our grocery list for the week, meaning what we eat. Its usually pizza, pasta, and chicken. On my days off I let the kids plan out our day. They get to choose what we eat, where we go and pretty much anything along the way. They also make up some rules and exceptions for the day. Alonso will usually ask to fix some dinner for us, it's the cutest thing. He usually makes spinach with cereal and sausages, and he makes us eat it all! He will also make it an exception for him to use the word butt cheeks at the end of every sentence!! It was pretty hilarious the first couple of times. Rebeka will usually ask to change her name..and it's always somthing super hard to say! On days like this we end up at the park, eating lots of ice cream and staying up past our bed time.
  I never force the kids to anything, if they need to do somthing and their not going for it I always try to encourage them, never force them. I explain the benefits of things and why they should reconsider. I encourage them to do the right thing. I explaine why it's important to have a good heart, and a good attitude.  Bottom line is I let them choose, I let them mess up. We've had alot of bad hair days and unmatching outfits around here. But that's what life's about!! Making mistakes and finding who you are. But most importantly having fun!!

Maya is four months!!

OH MY!!! Four months now. I guess it's true time does go by fast when your having fun. I don't even think I can explain how sweet Maya is. And that smell!! I can't get enough of that sweet baby smell. Little miss.Maya is seriously the happiest baby! She pretty much smiles at anything and anyone. She seems to be fascinated with her brother and sister. Not a day goes by with out me kissing every roll on her! I am seriously so in love!! She has brought so much love to our home, she's brought us together in so many ways. Never wakes up crying, it's always a cooing high pitch little scream. I still cant believe she's here!!!! Wish there was a way to make this moments last forever. I hope she grows up to be happy, strong, and determine. 

I promise I'll always be here to hold you up♡

Our Wednesday

We are so happy it's cooling down here in Arizona!! We are finally able to go out and explore with out melting. Today was a good day! We slept in since the kids had no school, had a very late breakfast. Alonso had speech and did awesome!! Rebeka has been wearing the same troll shirt for three days straight now! I can't blame here I have a pair of jeans myself that I wore once for a whole week!! That's usually what happens when you really like somthing. We had a couple of errands to do and stoped at this spot that's really close to our house. I love taking pictures of us! Rebeka is always so happy when I pull out my camera!! She's so easy to photograph. Alonso on the other hand is always running, moving, jumping! He can't stay still for very long! He has such great energy! Maya enjoyed getting out of the house, she was baby talking the whole time!! Had to change her diaper three times in the car! (That was fun)

 

Push of encouragement

       It's easy to fall apart somdays. The reminder that our life's aren't quite what we expected, or planed. We may physically not look the way we want. Maybe you woke up and stubble across an old idea or dream you once had, and realized how much time you have wasted  and feel somewhat like a loser for never finishing it. I hope I'm not the only one out there that feels this way at times. Although I consider myself to be quite optomistic I also have "those days" For those of you who can relate, you know that the smallest thing can trigger this thoughts and feelings. As much as I love social media, u know its easy to get discourage when you see all those beautiful women out there when you could be dealing with some typ of insucurrity issues. Imagine how hard it could be to see a picture of somone having or enjoying somthing you want or wanted or have been working so hard for but for some reason it hasn't happened for you yet (family, kids, vacations, love, money, body, job, and the list goes on....)
   I strongly incurage everyone out there to daily remind yourself of what you are and what you mean. Nobody is perfect and it's a complete wast of time to try to be. Never compare your life or who you are with others. When you do that that's when you fall into this awful feelings of insecurity, doubt and uncertainty. Its always best to remember that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Take a look at what you have accomplished,  and what you do have. One of my favorite quotes ( someone els is happier with less then what you have) remember you are fortunate enough to be living. But the most important thing to remember and never forget, and must always remind yourself is that it's never too late to fulfill a dream or idea. Its never to late to make that change. Its also okay to have changed your mind. Make new dreams and set little goals everyday.
   I know of people that have lost hope, and I myself have been there before. The only thing I can say is that your not the only one. And I garentee you that at all you need is a little push of encouragement and maybe a new out look on things. Learn to accept the things you can not change, and work hard everyday to change what you still can. And somthing extremely important I have learned with time ..... is that you must find happiness within yourself. Never depend on somone or somthing to bring you happiness. What others do or not do is irrelevant to what you should feel. So when your having one of this days don't expect somone to make it better... or think that if you had a certain possession or change in your body or whatever it is... that you would be happier. That's not real happiness. Start to love yourself for exactly who you are!! And appreciate what life has giving you. Never take anything for granted, and stop chasing material things. Start serching for things that bring peace to your life, and surround yourself with people who make you laugh, and feel good.
     Next time you have "one of those days" remember life is short try not to waste it.

♡Luz

my morning writing 

LET'S PLAY

    As parents it's our responsibility  to dicipline, educate, guide, nourish, and love our children. But above all that I full heartedly believe our number one priority should be to play with our children. I know that we live in a busy world, where it's hard to find time to do anything. And if your a working parent I can understand wanting to relax when you do find that extra time. But would you go a day with out feeding your child? No right. Well why would you skeep out on play time!!? It's been proven that play time helps them grow and learn and feel happy. 

      I make it my number one goal of my day to find time to play with my kids. No matter how busy I am or how tired I feel. You wouldn't beleive how happy they get when I join them. And I have found that while playing I am also learning more about them, I get to see a side of them that is beyond wild. I get to hear they're inside thoughts. They get so into it that they forget I'm mom and they actually start looking at me like I might just really be super woman and there are no words to describe how that makes me feel.
     What do we play!!?? You might ask. Well we pretty much play anything the kids want to play, hide and seek, tag, board games... you name it. BUT our all time favorite is imaginary play! I stared this when they were very little. We basically make up a senario, give eachother characters and BAM let the fun begin. I'm not quite sure who enjoys this more me or the kids. The days I'm really busy I say to myself.. "okay only 20 minutes today"  probably because I have to clean or have to get ready for work. And then before I know it I'm enjoying myself so much, that I realize  we been playing for almost an hour somtimes. There's no rules in this game. We can be anyone and be anywhere right in our living room. Somtimes we rearrange everything to make more room. My living room as been a library, grocery store, concert, school, hospital, Gotham city!!! We been everywhere right in our own home.
    We've also taken this game with us to other places. One of my favorite memories with the kids was at a resort we stayed at. We spent all day at the pool playing imaginary.  Sharks were after us!! at one point they ate one of Alonso legs off!! And Rebeka saved him by attacking the shark with her super power strength! And I was a pirate who capured them on my ship! You get the picture. Did I mention that the pool was full of people, that didn't stop us!! Once we get in character we forget about the world around us. How nice is that! Not only for the kids but for us as parents too. We need to make it our priority to forget about everything and jump into a world of make believe with our kids.

      For goodness sake please play with your kids. I grantee you'll see a difference in there behavior during the rest of the day. You playing with them makes them feel important. And it makes you get in touch with your inner child that most adults tend to lose with time, witch is super sad. Just because we are parents and "adults" doesn't mean we can't play!! Don't lose your fun side, I promise your kids will think your the funniest person out there!! Be the parent you want them to Remeber.

Maya is 3 months ♡

Maya Carolina is three months now! Time is flying by. She is such a good baby. She has the most adorable rolls ever! She was born at 9 and half pounds just last month she was at 15 lbs already! The girl is BIG! She loves bath time! Music and MILK! Not a big fan of belly time or car seat. She's  finally sleeping through the night 10 hours straight!!! (Yay for me) She recently just started cooing, and it's the cutest thing ever! 
        She drools so much, so I took her in for a check up, doctor said it looked like she was beginning to teeth! WHAT!! Yes apparently this could happen really early for some baby's. There are no teeth insight but the process could start now. She doesn't complain much other than her chewing on her hand all day she's seems to be dealing with it pretty good. I'm really concidering buying one of those teething mittens www.darlyngandco.com
    I defenetly feel like I have been paying more attention to the little things with this baby. I wanna say it's because with the other two I was first of all a lot younger and didn't quite understand really how fast they do grow. I wanna make sure i remember everything!! I wanna remember every roll and face expression!
   Maya is looking a lot like daddy, witch is really nice since our two older kids look like me! And the relationship between my husband and Maya is so awesome! No question about it... fore sure her favorite place to be is on daddy's arms. The whole family is loving baby Maya!! I feel so complete with her in my arms.

seven years down forever to go

       My husband and I recently just had our seven year wedding anniversary! It may not seem like much to some but I am seriously so proud and happy to have made it this far. God knows I have made too many mistakes but honestly I couldn't have been more blessed. I married my best friend. Things haven't always been easy. It has taken a lot of maturity and growing up to make this work. We have hit rock bottom and climbed our way back up. A friend recently asked me what marriage was like for me.... Immediately I was invaded with memories, and flashbacks... Good moments, bad moments really really bad moments. My mind was replaying kisses, laughs, and tears. The only thing I could say in that moment was "Its Beautiful" And it really is, even the bad I wouldn't take back.
We have so much history, and it didn't happen over night. After all this time falling in and out of love I always find my way back to him.
  I think its best to let go of any expectations we may have on marriage and love. Stop comparing your marriage to someone else's. Avoid criticizing, or pointing out each others flaws. Remember to encourage more often and actually listen... even when they are not talking. I know I know it easier said then done, believe me I know. But I also refuse to give up. Seven years three kids later I'm still here fighting for Love!!! I can honestly say we are in a good place and its with the help of God, and our kids. We seriously don't have much... There is never enough money to just go crazy on each other. I think its actually worked to our advantage, because it forces us to find different ways to show our love. We agreed that we would just dance the morning away for our anniversary! and believe me that was way sweeter than any piece of jewelry or other material thing out there (and his such a good dancer!! I need to so work on my moves!) Seven years down and forever to go.

Dancing in my kitchen 

with my husband

i guess its true 

money cant buy you happiness

and its the little things that count

till death do us part